WHEN SOMEONE PRESSURIZES YOU

Sex offenders know very well how to play with the emotions of an innocent victim and compel them to do what they want. They will bully you, intimidate you, traumatize you, and even try to make you feel guilty for not doing what they want. They will play mind games and use your emotional weakness and vulnerability to exploit you. Make sure that you don’t fall prey to these sly tactics. Always stay firmly grounded in your conscience and simply refuse to follow the dictates of those cunning sociopaths.

But how do you do that? Here are some useful tips:

  • Be absolutely clear in your mind that it’snot your fault:
    It is the perpetrator’s wicked and manipulative mentality that is to be blamed for the ungainly situation you are in. Never blame yourself and think that it’s your fault or stupidity that you landed into this mess.
  • Follow your instincts:
    Never bend to anyone’s pressurizing tactics. Follow your gut feeling and stay firm on your decisions. Respect your freedom to decide what you want to do and expect others to do so too. If you are unwilling to do something, simply say ‘no’ to it, no matter what. You know what is best for your safety and you don’t need to give any explanations for your decision.
  • Establish an emergency code word:
    Set a secret code word with a close friend or family member to use in an emergency situation to let them know that you are in urgent need for help. It could be a series of numbers like “007” or a word like “teapot” that you can text them or a random phrase that you can utter loudly, like “I think we should get some fresh air” – something that only you two understand and the offender is completely clueless about.
  • Don’t be afraid to lie:
    Although honesty is the best policy most of the times, there are situations when a lie can save you or someone else from danger. If you feel uncomfortable or anxious in a situation, don’t hesitate to use some excuse, even if it is an out and out lie, to get yourself out of that situation. You can use any random excuse that pops into your head at the spur of the moment, such as, ‘I need to use the bathroom’ or ‘I have to meet someone at …’ or ‘I am not feeling well’ etc. The whole point is to get away from the threatening situation and try and get some help.
  • Take note of some escape routes in advance:
    Can you locate any safe exits for escape in case you find yourself in an unwanted situation? It is best to be sharp-eyed about your surroundings and take note of some possible escape routes such as doors or windows that are close by and big enough to be used to take an emergency exit out of the uncomfortable situation.

Whichever strategy you use to keep yourself safe during uncomfortable or threatening incidences, it is important to know that it is never your fault. Don’t give in to any pressure and say a loud and clear ‘No’ to anything that you don’t want to do. Use a combination of courage and diplomacy to smartly tackle the situation and get out of it unharmed.